Every time you get into a relationship, you wonder if you’re going to have a good relationship with your lover. But what is a good relationship really? Find out here.
A good relationship can’t just be found. It has to be created. Our lives revolve around love, be it with friends, family or lovers. We need love in our lives to feel better and live happier. But are you in a good relationship that’ll give you the bliss and warmth that you crave for?
Ever wondered about what a good relationship is, and what it takes to have a good relationship? It takes just ten little aspects to create a good relationship.
If you and your partner can boast of achieving all five of these relationship factors or if you’re almost there, you’ve definitely got the potential to experience all the happy love the world has to offer!
What is a good relationship? Simply put, a good relationship is a beautiful experience. It’s easy to find it but it’s even more easy to overlook it.
You can spend all your life looking for true love and a good relationship, and you may never experience it even if it’s right in front of your eyes. After all, a good relationship requires the happy and willing effort of two lovers, and it blooms more with each passing day.
Want to know if you’re in a good relationship? These five good relationship factors will show you the way.
#1 You’re happy to be with your lover
In a good relationship, both partners are happy to be with each other. Good lovers complement each other and balance the relationship. On the inside, you may truly believe that you’re a desirable and attractive person who can get anyone you want. But at the same time, do you also truly believe that your partner too has the qualities to attract anyone they want?
Infatuation is fickle, but love isn’t. Most people get into a relationship and start wanting out as soon as the infatuation phase is over because they assume they deserve someone better. In a good relationship, both partners know they’re hot stuff, but they also know they’re perfect for each other.
#2 You argue constructively, if ever.
Arguments are never bad, as long as it’s limited to a rare occasion. After all, an argument is only a sign of misunderstanding unless it results because of a bigger conflict like an affair.
In a good relationship, you may have differences or arguments, but it’s always constructive to the relationship. You voice your opinions and help your partner understand how you’re feeling and what you really want. By bringing up a touchy subject and clearing the air, it helps bring both of you closer in the long run, just as long as the same mistakes don’t happen again.
And always remember this, irrespective of who started a fight, it’s the responsibility of both partners to end it as soon as possible.
#3 You love your partner unconditionally.
Lovers in good relationships are always happy. And as corny as it may sound, they feel happier when their partner is feeling happy. Call them soul mates if you must, but in a good relationship, the happiness one experiences aren’t just one-sided.
Have you ever gone out of your way to make your partner feel good, even if it means sacrificing something for yourself?
When you’re in a good relationship, both partners go out of their way to make their lover feel good. Do you have that unconditional love in your relationship?
#4 You communicate and learn.
A relationship matures over time. While your partner and you may have fallen in love at first sight and had the perfect chemistry, it takes a bit of work to retain it.
In a good relationship, both partners don’t take each other for granted. They communicate with each other and understand each other’s lives, be it personal or professional. Spend time together and learn about each other’s thoughts and ideas. We change as individuals all the time, so make sure you know your partner for the person they are now, not what they were years ago when you first met. In a good relationship, you should be the shoulder to lean on for your partner and the voice that motivates them.
Do you really know everything about your lover? Do you motivate your partner and help them realize their dreams and aspirations?
#5 You respect each other.
True love isn’t enough to hold a relationship together. In a good relationship, both partners must respect each other too. In your everyday life as a couple, you have to take a lot of decisions all the time. Do you make all the decisions when it comes to matters of the relationship, or does your partner do that?
If you do respect each other, you’d give importance to each other’s opinions before making a decision. On the other hand, if you don’t really respect your lover, you may ask for an opinion but do what you feel is best anyways. It may work for a while, but eventually, one partner will start to dominate the other psychologically and that can only lead to subdued or even open frustrations in the relationship.
So what is a good relationship really? It’s a perfect relationship where two lovers understand each other and love each other.
Life is full of choices, what are yours?
By: Timmy Samchel (AM A LETHAL)