There are two possible ways you can stop missing your ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend and stop feeling so lonely and heartbroken all the time: it’s either you get over them and move on, or you get back together with them, period.
However, if you are not so sure whether you want to get back together … maybe you’re on the fence about it and want to keep your options open or if you’re dead set on winning your ex’s heart back and starting all over again, then you’ll want to keep reading.
Ask yourself; “Why Do You Miss Your Ex So Much?”
I’ve said this many times in the past, but here’s the simple truth: breakups are one of the toughest things you’ll go through in life.
It’s completely normal to feel absolutely heartbroken when you’ve just been dumped, especially if it was a serious relationship and you’re still in love with your ex.
Trust me, I’ve been there, and I know how gut-wrenching it can be. You might feel like your life is over, like you’ll never be able to love again… it’s a whole lot of heartache.
- What makes breakups so awful?
Well, for starters, research has shown that on a neurological level, romantic love is a lot like a drug addiction.
Believe it or not, a breakup causes a very similar chemical response in your brain to that of a drug addict going through withdrawal. Your brain was chemically ‘dependent’ on your ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend, and you were psychologically dependent and accustomed to life with them by your side. And now, like a junkie in rehab, your brain is paralyzed by their sudden disappearance.
Now, I realize that knowing the science behind heartbreak isn’t really helping you feel any better. So let’s start with the first thing you should do if you miss your ex like crazy.
Steps to follow
Step #1: Determine your chance of getting your ex back
For the majority of you reading this right now, you probably still have a good chance of undoing your breakup and winning back your ex.
Unfortunately, that may not be the case for some of you, and it may be time to give up and focus on moving on.
Step #2: Change your mindset to stop missing your ex
This is arguably the most important thing I’m going to tell you in this article, so pay close attention:
You can’t use words to win back your ex. You can’t talk your way back into their heart or convince them to take you back, no matter how charming you might be, trust me on this.
After working with tens of thousands of clients in your shoes, I know for certain that the only real way to win back your ex is to change their perception of you.
You need your ex to let go of any negative memories and feelings about you and you need to re-build real, organic attraction to the point where he or she simply won’t care about any of the ‘logical’ or ‘rational’ reasons for breaking up with you.
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Words or gifts or love notes will NEVER help you win your ex back.
The proper way to move forward if you want to get a second chance with your ex is to focus on yourself and the things within your control. This will allow you to re-shape how your ex feels about you, and re-build their attraction to you until they simply can’t resist the urge to take you back.
Step #3: Remove any reminders of your ex for now
This one is pretty simple. You don’t want to be constantly reminded of your ex throughout the day. So now is a good time to pack up any photos, notes, gifts, etc that could remind you of your ex. Just put them all in a box and throw it in the basement or out of sight somewhere (temporarily)
Life is all about your choices and decisions.
Timmy Samchel (Am A LETHAL)